The Psychology of Moral Safety

I’ve had a question for a while now: Why do people who crusade against a particular “moral evil” so often struggle against it personally and fall prey to it, sometimes very publicly? In my opinion, it happens too often to be mere coincidence — I really think there’s a correlation.

Well, the Boston Globe published an article this week by Drake Bennett on The Nature of Temptation, which talks about that tie. It explains the dangers of overconfidence in one’s own willpower:

… people with the most favorable opinion of their own moral fortitude seem to have the widest empathy gaps. In one study, Nordgren looked at a group of people trying to quit smoking and found that it was those who rated their willpower particularly highly who were most likely to end up smoking again within a few months. The reason, Nordgren argues, is that they were more cavalier about exposing themselves to situations where they might be tempted to smoke. It’s a tendency that he argues extends far beyond smokers. Mark Sanford’s admission this week that in the lead-up to his affair he had flirtatious extramarital relationships that “didn’t cross the sex line” with multiple women suggests, perhaps, a similarly reckless faith in his own willpower.

Beyond willpower is a sense of one’s own inherent moral goodness — if you’re a “good guy”, you don’t need to prove it by actually doing good things:

A paper published this spring … at Northwestern University found that, if people were primed to think of themselves as good, caring people, they were actually less generous with donations, and less likely to advocate spending money on costly environmental protection measures, than people primed to think of themselves as selfish and cruel.

The article quotes Benoit Monin, a Stanford University professor, “People feel like they have a free pass because they’ve amassed those moral credits as a good person.” It goes on to cite a suggestion by Sonya Sachdeva, a graduate student who was an author of the Northwestern paper:

… for those who worry about the complacency that moral self-satisfaction can bring, the key may lie in seeing our good deeds as individually unimportant. Rather than thinking of moral acts as accomplishments – thereby triggering the cooling effect on our inner moral thermostat – we should strive to make them habitual, almost rote, so they’re not competing with all of our other goals. Writing of “moral habits” two millennia ago, Aristotle argued for something similar.

This line of reasoning also might help illuminate why the Baha’i Long Obligatory Prayer includes such an emphasis on our own weakness and moral limitations.

Thou dost perceive my tears and the sighs I utter, and hearest my groaning, and my wailing, and the lamentation of my heart. By Thy might! My trespasses have kept me back from drawing nigh unto Thee; and my sins have held me far from the court of Thy holiness. Thy love, O my Lord, hath enriched me, and separation from Thee hath destroyed me, and remoteness from Thee hath consumed me.

The Long Obligatory Prayer has always seemed to me to be particularly powerful. Baha’u'llah is quoted as saying, “In truth, it hath been revealed in such wise that if it be recited to a rock, that rock would stir and speak forth.” I’ve wondered, though, why it puts so much emphasis on humility and unworthiness. Perhaps comparing one’s moral standard to God’s is a sure way to keep perspective, and help avoid the “cooling effect on our moral thermostat” that Sachdeva describes. From the prayer:

Thy forgiveness hath emboldened me, and Thy mercy hath strengthened me and Thy call hath awakened me, and Thy grace hath raised me up and led me unto Thee. Who, otherwise, am I that I should dare to stand at the gate of the city of Thy nearness, or set my face toward the lights that are shining from the heaven of Thy will? Thou seest, O my Lord, this wretched creature knocking at the door of Thy grace, and this evanescent soul seeking the river of everlasting life from the hands of Thy bounty. Thine is the command at all times, O Thou Who art the Lord of all names; and mine is resignation and willing submission to Thy will, O Creator of the heavens!

There’s much more in the Globe article. I heartily recommend it to anyone interested in current psychological research on personal moral integrity.

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Philosophy of a 4-year-old

Setting: back yard

T: “I wish it was pillow day. Where there are pillows everywhere.”

Dad: “Pillows everywhere?”

T: “Yeah, and all the pillows are filled with candy.”

On not having arms

“Without arms you couldn’t throw out the compost.”

“Without arms, you couldn’t pick flowers for your Mom on her birthday.”

See, those are the important things.

Teresa Philosophizing

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Things Grownups Do

(according to Teresa)

  • Put out balloons for birthday parties
  • Reach the sink1
  • Make a hole in the ground
  • Drink coffee
  • Make a happy face
  • Grow flowers
  • Pull out weeds
  • Eat sour plant2
  • Make honey water3

And that’s all.


1 Without a stool.

2 Referring to wood sorrel, an edible plant common in Illinois. Also referred to by the under-5 crowd around here as “heart plant”, for the shape of its leaves. Actually, Teresa does her own share of eating it whenever she has a chance, so this list is apparently not exclusive to grown-ups.

3 I made her some this morning because her throat was crackly.

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Difficult

Parental responsibility: resolving disputes.
Teresa: Dad, Maya said that difficult is hard. And I said that difficult is easy.

Can you please tell the best way?

Me: Mm-hmm. Is difficult easy for you?
Teresa: Yes.

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Time and Beauty

Here is an article that I just read that I love. It describes time as an emergent property of the universe; that is, it’s not a fundamental thing—instead, it arises from other, more basic things. I’m not sure what those basic things are, but I have a feeling that the arrangement is important:

discovermagazine.com/2007/jun/in-no-time

My favorite part of the article:

“It’s quite mysterious why we have such an obvious arrow of time,” says Seth Lloyd, a quantum mechanical engineer at MIT. (When I ask him what time it is, he answers, “Beats me. Are we done?”) “The usual explanation of this is that in order to specify what happens to a system, you not only have to specify the physical laws, but you have to specify some initial or final condition.”

The mother of all initial conditions, Lloyd says, was the Big Bang. Physicists believe that the universe started as a very simple, extremely compact ball of energy. Although the laws of physics themselves don’t provide for an arrow of time, the ongoing expansion of the universe does. As the universe expands, it becomes ever more complex and disorderly. The growing disorder—physicists call it an increase in entropy—is driven by the expansion of the universe, which may be the origin of what we think of as the ceaseless forward march of time.

Although the article seems to raise more questions (and good ones) than it provides answers, here’s another part that I think is very elucidatory:

“Time may be an approximate concept that emerges at large scales—a bit like the concept of ‘surface of the water,’ which makes sense macroscopically but which loses a precise sense at the level of the atoms.”

I am interested in Time especially because it enables consequences, results of actions, and learning, which is, according to Baha’u'llah, central to physical existence:

Out of the wastes of nothingness, with the clay of My command I made thee to appear, and have ordained for thy training every atom in existence and the essence of all created things.

— Baha’u'llah, Hidden Words

I also find this kind of reductionist thinking and experimentation appealing artistically because it breaks things down to such a fundamental level that I feel, when I’m reading it, like “this universe is actually pretty simple and mechanical”, which can also be a pretty depressing thought.

But then I contrast that with the whorling beauty that surrounds and permeates us, and wafts from every direction, and in the contrast between that and the reductionist explanations, the beauty itself takes on new meaning.

It’s like listening to music before and after studying music theory—the structures you subconsciously appreciated before are now open to you for deeper exploration.

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Focus Distance

Ever since I was little, I liked to see what I could do with my eyes. Cross them (which I learned from Mom), shake them (which I learned from a fellow fourth-grader), focus and de-focus them (which I think I’ve been doing since I was three or so).
I am 36 and have managed to avoid needing glasses so far, but I wonder how much longer I can go. I think my Mom made it to about 40, and I’ve heard that your lenses harden gradually, with 40 marking about the limit at which you can focus both close-up and far away under your own power. The question I have is this: can you postpone reading glasses by exercising your lenses? Does flexing them deliberately have any effect on their pliability? I have been habitually de-focusing (blurring) my eyes every few minutes or seconds, for years, perhaps with that hope in the back of my mind. Does anybody else do that?
Here’s a test: what are the limits of my focusing? I can see far away clearly, but how close can I go? I remember it was as little as two or three inches once upon a time, but I’m sure it’s much less now.
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Seven inches. Same in both my right and left eyes. Maybe 6 3/4 on the right. Any closer and I lose sharpness. I’m surprised—I didn’t think I could still focus that close.
I should keep track of it—it might make a cool graph.
I heard that one of my male ancestors (maybe my Dad’s Dad’s Dad?) kept holding books farther and farther from his face when he read, until he got to arm’s length and couldn’t hold them any farther. At which point he relented and got reading glasses.
Do other people do that de-focusing thing? I asked Georgia and Maya; Georgia (age 8) didn’t know what I meant—the only thing she thought of was squinting. But Maya (age 5) did, and demonstrated by getting a vacant look on her face for a moment. I encouraged her to keep up the skill (de-focusing; not looking vacant).

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Log Cabin Era Technology

Me: Can you imagine not having computers?
Georgia: Yeah; Laura and Mary didn’t.
That’s right, in Little House on the Prairie, they didn’t have computers.

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Now, in yellow

We finally got the camera and computer working together again:
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Billy, Bahiyyih, Teresa, Maya, and Georgia

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Some Desktop Backgrounds

Lately, I’ve been reading little bits from The Tabernacle of Unity, a recent translation of some of Bahá’u'lláh’s Writings. I haven’t gotten very far in the book, partly because I’ve wanted to keep some of its excerpts around in a way that I’ll see again.

It turns out that Macs and Linux, which represent my two computers at work, let you have your desktop background rotate automatically every once in a while (say, every hour). I put up some of my favorite family photos (thanks, Picasa, a great photo-organizing program for Windows — comically, now I’ve got the three major computer operating systems represented here, which may be appropriate given the Book that this post refers to), to switch randomly every half-hour or hour. And into them, I’ve been slowly adding photos with quotes superimposed over them. (Created with The Gimp, a free image editing program.)

Say: O children of dust!  He Who is the Spirit of Purity saith: In this glorious Day whatsoever can purge you from defilement and ensure your peace and tranquility, that indeed is the Straight Path, the path that leadeth unto Me.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.9.

To be purged from defilement is to be cleansed of that which is unjurious to man and detracteth from his high station--among which is to take undue pleasure in one's own words and deeds, notwithstanding their unworthiness.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.9

True peace and tranguility will only be realized when every soul will have become the well-wisher of all mankind.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.9

He Who is the All-Knowing beareth Me witness: were the peoples of the world to grasp the true significance of the words of God, they would never be deprived of their portion of the ocean of His bounty.  In the firmament of truth there hath never been, nor will there ever be, a brighter star than this.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.9

The Lord of celestial wisdom saith: A harsh word is even as a sword thrust; a gentle word as milk.  The latter leadeth the children of men unto knowledge and conferreth upon them true distinction.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.13

The Tongue of Wisom proclaimeth: He that hath Me not is bereft of all things.  Turn ye away from all that is on earth and seek none else but me.  I am the Sun of Wisdom and the Ocean of Knowledge.  I cheer the faint and revive the dead.  I am the guiding Light that illumineth the way.  I am the royal Falcon on the arm of the Almighty.  I unfold the drooping wings of every broken bird and start it on its flight.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.14

The incomparable Friend saith: The path to freedom hath been outstretched; hasten ye thereunto.  The wellspring of wisdom is overflowing; quaff ye therefrom.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.15.

Say: O well-beloved ones!  The tabernacle of unity hath been raised; regard ye not one another as strangers.  Ye are the fruits of one tree, and the leaves of one branch.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.15.

Verily I say, whatsoever leadeth to the decline of ignorance and the increase of knowledge hath been, and will ever remain, approved in the sight of the Lord of creation.  Baha'u'llah, The Tabernacle of Unity, 1.15

So there you have it, my personal motivational posters :) . I don’t put them up exclusively — they’re mixed in with about 150 uncaptioned family photos, so I only see them once in a while.

They were fun to do, although decidedly amateur; let me know if you notice any mistakes, and I’ll correct them. The Writings of Baha’u'llah are absolutely overflowing with excerpts that I would love to have on my desktop.

You know what would be cool? A program that automatically picks a quiet spot on a photo and puts an appropriate quote there. Or even one that combines a feed of photos and a feed of quotes.

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More work, more progress

Here are the fruits of Bahiyyih‘s and my latest collaboration. To the tune of The first one is the first one:

Oh, the fish swim in the ocean
The sharks swim in the sea
Won’t some kindly mer[maid/man]
Come and marry me?

The eel will be the witness,
The squid will bring the ink,
The crab will find some rings, and
We’ll all be in the drink!

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We’ve all been away from the beach for too long.

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